The Modern Day Harlot and Me

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The Bible helps us understand life and the characters in it.  This is what I learned from my relationship that ended earlier this year.  It’s a lesson God wanted me to learn I guess.

Thank God it’s over.  But this is a description – and confession by me – of that situation I put myself in.

Proverbs Chapter 7 describes the way of an adulteress, contrasting with Proverbs 8 which sets forth the way of wisdom.  It features an eye-witness account of the seduction of a man by an adulteress.

Proverbs 7:11: She is stubborn and never at rest, always agitated; busily employed to gain her end, and this is to go into the path of error, “turning aside;” preferring any way to the right way.  And, therefore, it is added, her feet abide not in her house, she gads abroad; and this disposition probably first led her to this vice. 

For me, it began with her saying, “I was kissing another man and all I could think of was, what would it be like to kiss you?”  It went on from there:

7:17 I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon.

7:18 Come, let us take our fill of love until the morning: let us solace ourselves with love.

This is what Solomon said about this type of woman:

Then there’s this other woman, Madame Whore—
brazen, empty-headed, frivolous.
She sits on the front porch of her house on Main Street (or in this case church, Facebook & Twitter)
And as people walk by minding their own business, she calls out,
“Are you confused about life, don’t know what’s going on?
Steal off with me, I’ll show you a good time!
No one will ever know—I’ll give you the time of your life.”
But they don’t know about all the skeletons in her closet,
that all her guests end up in hell.
Solomon continues:

Now then, my sons, listen to me; pay attention to what I say. Do not let your heart turn to her ways or stray into her paths.  Many are the victims she has brought down; her slain are a mighty throng. Her house is a highway to the grave, leading down to the chambers of death.

The description of seduction in Proverbs 7:11-21 includes several indicators of the integrity and character plus the tactics and approaches that this type of sinful women have used for thousands of years to lure men.

First, notice how the seductress appeals to the senses. This woman has prepared the perfect environment for her seductions, and everything about her approach is meant to be attractive to his sight (starting with selfies in today’s culture), smell, and touch, even his emotions. In fact, the only thing she does not try to use on him is real logic. But the atmosphere here is just perfect for what she is intending.

Her emphasis is on:

  • Gaining material wealth — at least enough so she can live independent of God’s providential care.
  • Gaining power and influence — so she can exert control rather than having someone control her.
  • Physical pleasure—on pleasing the self, rather than serving others.
  • Fashion, self-image, and being noticed—so that she can attract attention, rather than pay attention to others in encouragement or other forms of service.

She has heard Solomon’s words but does not listen or act on them: “Don’t you realize that making friends with God’s enemies — the evil pleasures of this world — makes you an enemy of God? I say it again, that if your aim is to enjoy the evil pleasure of the unsaved world, you cannot also be a friend of God.”

She does it anyway.

These passages detail some of a harlot’s characteristics.  A careful study would find that she is described as deviously sly and cunning in that she feigns love, knowing how to pull a man’s strings. Her “love” is strictly business — it is nothing but window dressing.  Part of her eye-appealing attraction is her purposeful seduction.

She is described as “loud,” which might be better rendered as turbulent, flighty, confused, inconstant, and unstable.  She lacks dignity (although feigns it) and gravity, integrity and character, and she is stubborn, defiant, brazen, deliberately obstinate, and headstrong.

Almost every responsible person I know describes her that way.

Further, she is aggressive, impudent, contemptuous, presumptuous, and disrespectful. Wow does that sound familiar.

She is a harlot.

HarlotHarlotry has its base in lust, deceit, and treachery, entered into, executed, or performed for what the perpetrator believes is an immediate gain.  Not every case of harlotry follows Delilah’s (the woman that seduced Samson) exact pattern, but the motivations center on sinning for personal gain, an element that never seems to change.

Delilah illustrates a greedy, smooth-talking temptress.  Biblically, she rejects God’s provision for her of a Godly husband to seek personal, “more satisfying” gain by other means.  The driving forces are unbelief and distrust combined with self-indulgence primarily expressed through greed.

The term “greed” may sound harsh, considering the circumstances some women get themselves into before choosing to prostitute themselves.

However, we have to learn that nobody has to sin — but something motivates us to do so.

Greed is “expressing excessive desire, especially for food (her greed of choice), drink, or wealth.”  We give ourselves and others an almost endless stream of justifications for sinning, but the bottom line is that we are simply unwilling to pay the price to discipline ourselves to do what is right. In our impatience, we convince ourselves that righteousness will not get us anything.

Proverbs Chapter 9 makes the conclusion:

A foolish woman is clamorous – Vain, an empty woman, those that make the most noise. And she that is full of clamor, has generally little or no sense. Proverbs 9:13

And so she continues….

The Six D’s Of Satan…

Deception, Doubt, Discouragement, Diversion, Defeat, and Delay

Honor Yourself & Others

Honor Yourself & Others

By the grace of God I don’t live my life by these 6 D’s.

I was recently in a relationship and she lived her life by the 6 D’s even though she ‘said’ she didn’t. It was all a front and fraud.  She has given into deception of herself and others, the very first D.

Because of my Catholic and military upbringing, I was blessed since early childhood:

  • To not deceive, be honest
  • Not doubt, believe
  • Not discourage, be uplifting
  • Don’t divert, lead and tackle head-on
  • Don’t accept defeat, fight to win
  • Don’t delay; make decisions quickly and go for it.

I did everything I could to support her and servant-lead by example.  She chose the 6 D’s instead.

I don’t need someone that lives by the 6 D’s.  I don’t deserve that person or anyone like them either.

And you don’t either. Have faith in God that he will guide you to be honest, to believe, to uplift others and yourself, to lead head-on, to win, and go for it without delay.

 

 

Most Civilians Don’t Get It: God, Duty, Honor, Country

Arlington National Cemetery

Arlington National Cemetery

That is me.  That is my sister. That is my son. That is my father and mother.

My grandfather was a “lifer” in the military.  Both my father and mother were officers.  I gave up my son to help him get into the Marine Corps.  He fought and survived Iraq thank God.

Most civilians don’t understand life-long commitment, life and death commitment.  Hell, they think only about the here and now.

On an Arlington National Cemetery hill overlooking the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier

On an Arlington National Cemetery hill overlooking the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier

I was that kid waiting at the military flightline for my Dad to get home.  We watched military families keep their front blinds shut in the military housing area so they wouldn’t see the staff car drive up when their family member was deployed into a war zone.  We ran to comfort the families that received the staff car news: KIA, POW, MIA.

A commitment lasts an eternity, not just your time on Earth.  Too bad that civilians are missing the big picture.  The important stuff.  They only get what is the pin-dot of time here in this world and don’t get the feeling of mission, purpose, life, and blessings beyond this planet.

Please God help these weak ones know You, know the power of eternity with You, and decide to honor You, their families, their duty, and their country before their life is over in a meaningless pursuit of nothing.

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