The Modern Day Harlot and Me

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The Bible helps us understand life and the characters in it.  This is what I learned from my relationship that ended earlier this year.  It’s a lesson God wanted me to learn I guess.

Thank God it’s over.  But this is a description – and confession by me – of that situation I put myself in.

Proverbs Chapter 7 describes the way of an adulteress, contrasting with Proverbs 8 which sets forth the way of wisdom.  It features an eye-witness account of the seduction of a man by an adulteress.

Proverbs 7:11: She is stubborn and never at rest, always agitated; busily employed to gain her end, and this is to go into the path of error, “turning aside;” preferring any way to the right way.  And, therefore, it is added, her feet abide not in her house, she gads abroad; and this disposition probably first led her to this vice. 

For me, it began with her saying, “I was kissing another man and all I could think of was, what would it be like to kiss you?”  It went on from there:

7:17 I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon.

7:18 Come, let us take our fill of love until the morning: let us solace ourselves with love.

This is what Solomon said about this type of woman:

Then there’s this other woman, Madame Whore—
brazen, empty-headed, frivolous.
She sits on the front porch of her house on Main Street (or in this case church, Facebook & Twitter)
And as people walk by minding their own business, she calls out,
“Are you confused about life, don’t know what’s going on?
Steal off with me, I’ll show you a good time!
No one will ever know—I’ll give you the time of your life.”
But they don’t know about all the skeletons in her closet,
that all her guests end up in hell.
Solomon continues:

Now then, my sons, listen to me; pay attention to what I say. Do not let your heart turn to her ways or stray into her paths.  Many are the victims she has brought down; her slain are a mighty throng. Her house is a highway to the grave, leading down to the chambers of death.

The description of seduction in Proverbs 7:11-21 includes several indicators of the integrity and character plus the tactics and approaches that this type of sinful women have used for thousands of years to lure men.

First, notice how the seductress appeals to the senses. This woman has prepared the perfect environment for her seductions, and everything about her approach is meant to be attractive to his sight (starting with selfies in today’s culture), smell, and touch, even his emotions. In fact, the only thing she does not try to use on him is real logic. But the atmosphere here is just perfect for what she is intending.

Her emphasis is on:

  • Gaining material wealth — at least enough so she can live independent of God’s providential care.
  • Gaining power and influence — so she can exert control rather than having someone control her.
  • Physical pleasure—on pleasing the self, rather than serving others.
  • Fashion, self-image, and being noticed—so that she can attract attention, rather than pay attention to others in encouragement or other forms of service.

She has heard Solomon’s words but does not listen or act on them: “Don’t you realize that making friends with God’s enemies — the evil pleasures of this world — makes you an enemy of God? I say it again, that if your aim is to enjoy the evil pleasure of the unsaved world, you cannot also be a friend of God.”

She does it anyway.

These passages detail some of a harlot’s characteristics.  A careful study would find that she is described as deviously sly and cunning in that she feigns love, knowing how to pull a man’s strings. Her “love” is strictly business — it is nothing but window dressing.  Part of her eye-appealing attraction is her purposeful seduction.

She is described as “loud,” which might be better rendered as turbulent, flighty, confused, inconstant, and unstable.  She lacks dignity (although feigns it) and gravity, integrity and character, and she is stubborn, defiant, brazen, deliberately obstinate, and headstrong.

Almost every responsible person I know describes her that way.

Further, she is aggressive, impudent, contemptuous, presumptuous, and disrespectful. Wow does that sound familiar.

She is a harlot.

HarlotHarlotry has its base in lust, deceit, and treachery, entered into, executed, or performed for what the perpetrator believes is an immediate gain.  Not every case of harlotry follows Delilah’s (the woman that seduced Samson) exact pattern, but the motivations center on sinning for personal gain, an element that never seems to change.

Delilah illustrates a greedy, smooth-talking temptress.  Biblically, she rejects God’s provision for her of a Godly husband to seek personal, “more satisfying” gain by other means.  The driving forces are unbelief and distrust combined with self-indulgence primarily expressed through greed.

The term “greed” may sound harsh, considering the circumstances some women get themselves into before choosing to prostitute themselves.

However, we have to learn that nobody has to sin — but something motivates us to do so.

Greed is “expressing excessive desire, especially for food (her greed of choice), drink, or wealth.”  We give ourselves and others an almost endless stream of justifications for sinning, but the bottom line is that we are simply unwilling to pay the price to discipline ourselves to do what is right. In our impatience, we convince ourselves that righteousness will not get us anything.

Proverbs Chapter 9 makes the conclusion:

A foolish woman is clamorous – Vain, an empty woman, those that make the most noise. And she that is full of clamor, has generally little or no sense. Proverbs 9:13

And so she continues….

True Conversion to Christ?

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Today I received a great message from a pastor friend I know.  We were discussing how someone that, by all appearances, is a committed Christian; but, can jump into major sin so easily.

I’m not talking about the run-of-the-mill everyday sins like little white lies, truly minor indiscretions, lapses in kindness.  I’m referring to breaking the Ten Commandments.  A reminder:

Ten Commandments

  1. You shall have no other gods before Me.
  2. You shall not make idols.
  3. You shall not take the name of the LORD your God in vain.
  4. Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy.
  5. Honor your father and your mother.
  6. You shall not murder.
  7. You shall not commit adultery.
  8. You shall not steal.
  9. You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.
  10. You shall not covet.

Now, I can honestly say that I’m not perfect.  Far from it.  However, I can honestly say I don’t commit Top Ten sins – and it’s really not that hard to not steal, have affairs, lie about others, kill people, etc….

Just do what is right.

I’ve been in several relationships where the women praise up and down that they are Christians.  They go to church, enroll their kids in Sunday school and other Christian activities, or even teach Sunday school and talk the talk – a lot.

But these weren’t just ordinary hypocrites.

AbandonmentAll of these relationships turned into disasters when the women started doing extremely un-Christian-like behaviors.  They had affairs, virtually abandoned their children to chase men or money for personal gain (not for their kids), did drugs, used their sexuality to promote themselves or others, and/or quit going to church.

They all made excuses for their behavior rather than just admit they did it, take responsibility, apologize, and repent.  That’s what true Christians do.

Got_the_HatThe leading excuse was “I’ve been through a lot.”  It’s the prevalent victim mentality used throughout our society today to rationalize all kinds of bad behavior, as though going through something bad, even Hell, gives anyone the right to make wrong choices, hurt others including their children, or go directly against the teachings of Christ.

To me, they have no control over their thought life.  They thought sin; so, they did it.

I’ve witnessed a lot of cheerleaders for Christ.  They go to church, talk the talk, but don’t make choices or behave based on the Word of God.

They think about being a Christian; but, they are not Christian.

To me they are not FOLLOWERS of Christ.  They imagine a fairytale lifestyle that is not real on this earth, they project a feel-good prosperity faith without struggle, or they have judgmental motives to criticize Christian institutions and traditions.

Something inside their mind attracts them to big sin.

They also pick and choose which Christian principles to live by – not live by all of them.  Those are called cafeteria Christians.  Take one belief from column A, two from column B, skip C, and that’s their personal version of being a Christian – to them.

So I asked the pastor, “How can this happen?”  And why do they continue to talk one way and do another?

His answer:

“No one who has a true conversion turns on Jesus.  It was all false.  She/they wore the Jesus t-shirt but not the changed heart.  Sad.”

This is as good an answer as any I’ve heard.  It explains a lot.

Does that mean they are saved and have the faith necessary to enter into eternity seated with God?  What do you think?


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